There is no word for “patronizing” in Romanian. I grew up feeling the tone before I could name it—the way care slips into control, or affection slides into humiliation. When language fails you, the body becomes the record.
These works draw from the everyday commands, jokes, warnings, and diminishments that shaped me and the generations around me. Painted, stenciled, sprayed, or lifted from walls and workshops in Timișoara, each phrase carries a double edge: warmth and discipline, intimacy and shame.
The phrases appear as they are lived—often without the diacritical marks of formal Romanian, in the spelling of someone who left and returned. The misspellings remain.
By giving these phrases form, I’m trying to understand them. By naming them, I’m trying to change their power.
How Do You Say Patronizing? is a text-based painting and stencil series about Romanian language, migration, internal censorship, and the way everyday speech turns insecurity into power.